Discharge Instructions for Self-Care Following a Loss of Pregnancy
Activity:
Physical activity should be as you can tolerate and according to your healthcare provider's recommendation. No heavy lifting is advised. Allow for rest periods especially the first two weeks. If you would like to exercise - walking is recommended, jogging and swimming are usually okay after 6 weeks. Check with your health care provider about climbing stairs, or other strenuous activities. Do not return to full activity (aerobics, tennis, employment) until after your physician checkup. No sit-ups or weightlifting for the first four to six weeks if you had a cesarean section.
Driving:
Do not drive while you are taking Vicodin, Tylenol with Codeine, or any other narcotic medication.
Sleep:
Make sure to get enough rest. Napping is encouraged.
Diet:
A nutritious and balanced diet is essential for healing. If you have diabetes and your blood sugar level is too high or too low, this can put you at an increased risk for infection. Please discuss blood sugar goals and treatment with your health care provider.
Breast Care:
You may experience breast changes following the loss of a pregnancy for up to 14 weeks. Until your breasts return to normal, wear a tight bra (a jogging bra is best), even during the night. An Ace Wrap, instead of a bra may also be helpful. Do not express milk from your breasts or let hot water from the shower run over them for a long period of time. Stimulation of any kind can cause more milk production. If your breasts become painful and firm:
- Apply an ice bag wrapped in a thin towel to the breasts.
- Take pain medications as prescribed by your healthcare provider.
- Place cold raw cabbage leaves (not cooked) inside your bra directly onto your breasts. Change every two hours or when the leaves become limp.
Bowel Tips:
Drink at least six to eight glasses of water every day. Eat foods rich in fiber, such as fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains and bran. Walk often. For hemorrhoids, use a sitz bath or sit in a tub with a few inches of warm water for 10 to 15 minutes. Report severe diarrhea or lack of bowel movement for three consecutive days to your health care provider.
Bladder Tips:
Turn on the faucet while you are on the toilet. Pour warm water over your bottom as you do with peri-care or urinate while you are taking a warm shower. Tell your health care provider if you experience frequent urination, difficulty urinating or a burning sensation when you urinate.
Vaginal Bleeding:
The appearance of your vaginal discharge will change during the days and weeks ahead. Typically, you will see:
- Days one to three - Bright red discharge with small clots resembling a moderate to heavy menstrual period.
- Days three to seven - Pinkish to brownish discharge, less heavy bleeding.
- Weeks two to six - Creamy yellow to white color, less and less discharge. You should contact your health care provider if you return to a bright red or pinkish/brownish discharge appearance after the first week, soak more than one pad per hour, pass large clots or tissue, notice a foul odor, or have no discharge in the first two weeks.
Taking Care of Your Bottom:
You should pay special attention to cleaning your bottom as long as any discharge or bleeding (lochia) continues. If you had stitches to repair an episiotomy (vaginal incision) or a tear, they will dissolve by themselves and do not need to be removed. You may use medicated pads, sprays or sitz baths, as prescribed by your health care provider. A sitz bath is a small plastic basin you fill with water and position over your toilet, allowing you to submerge your bottom by sitting down. Wash your hands before and after you change your pad. Always wipe from front to back after urination and bowel movements. After using the toilet, fill the peri-bottle with plain warm water, rinse off your bottom, gently pat dry and then put on a clean sanitary pad. Do not use tampons or douches until your doctor advises that it is safe to do so.
Taking Care of your Cesarean Incision:
Hygiene:
Make sure you clean your hands often with soap and water or an alcohol-based hand sanitizer; especially before and after touching your wound. Remind your family and caregivers to wash their hands as well.
- DO NOT take soaking baths. Soaking in a bath, pool or hot tub within the first two to four weeks after surgery can break open your wound and cause infection.
- Shower daily or as directed by your doctor. Gently clean the wound with a mild soap and water. If you doctor has given you a special soap that helps kill germs, like the chlorhexidine gluconate (CGH) solution, follow those instructions carefully. After washing your wound, rinse off all the soap and dry.
Wound Care:
Your incision has many layers that heal at the same time. You should receive specific instructions from your doctor on how to care for your wound. It is important to look at your incision daily. Ask a family member or caregiver for help if you are unable to see it.
- If you are sent home with staples, discuss the plan for removal with your doctor.
- If your doctor used staples, they will likely be removed before you go home. These are strong dissolvable stitches below the skin and staples on the skin. After removing the staples, the nurse or doctor may place SteriStrips (like thin tape) over the incision.
- The SteriStrips should be removed seven days after they were put on your skin and can easily be removed in the shower. Some SteriStrips may fall off before the seventh day. If this happens, they do not need to be replaced.
Keep your wound open to air after 48 hours:
- Follow your doctor's instructions whether or not you need to cover your wound once you are home.
- Once your wound has formed a scab, having it dry and open to air is the best way to help your wound heal. Do not pick at your scab or try to remove it.
- Do not use lotions, powder, creams or ointments on or around your wound unless your doctor told you to do so.
- If your incision is in or near a skin fold (e.g., under breast or abdominal crease), make sure you are keeping the area clean and dry. If you have skin that hangs over the incision, you should lift it for careful cleaning. You should check your incision at least three times a day and ask for assistance if you are not able to clean it by yourself.
Sex/Intercourse:
- Sexual intercourse should not be resumed until your vaginal discharge has stopped and your stitches are healed. Follow your health care provider’s advice about when to resume sexual relations.
- When you resume intercourse, you may want to consider using a lubricating jelly that may help ease initial discomfort. If bleeding occurs during intercourse, discontinue sexual intercourse for a few days because you may need more time to heal.
Please Call Your Healthcare Practitioner If You Experience Any of the Following:
- Temperature of 100.4 ° F or above
- Returning to a previous color of vaginal discharge soaking more than one pad per hour, passing large clots or tissue, or a foul odor and/or no discharge in first two weeks
- Heat, redness, swelling, liquid or pus, or separation of cesarean incision or episiotomy
- Inability to urinate, frequent urination or a burning sensation with urination
- Excessive diarrhea or no bowel movement for three consecutive days
- Tenderness, redness or hardened areas in your breasts
- Experiencing headaches, vision problems, rapid weight gain or swelling of the hands or face
Dealing With Grief:
A baby's death is one of the most painful and traumatic experiences a parent will confront in a lifetime. Not everyone who has experienced the loss of a baby will respond in the same way. In fact, you should not be surprised if you and your partner react differently. Anger and guilt are common reactions and usually accompanies grief. It is important to give yourself permission to grieve. Grieving the death of a baby may last far longer than you or others may expect. It often helps to share with someone the feelings of loss, pain and sadness you are experiencing. Be gentle with yourself, allow yourself as much time as you need to heal.
Support Network Internet Resources
Joining a support group where members share common experiences and problems often helps the stress of grieving, but there are many who don't feel comfortable with support group meetings, or they do not live in an area where traditional groups meet. For this reason, a list of Internet bereavement support resources is provided below. They offer opportunities for e-mail support, weekly on-line chats, bulletin boards and message boards and other means to memorialize your loss. All of these sources were started by and are continually maintained by people who have experienced similar losses.
*Empty Cradle - a worldwide support network to help parents and families heal. https://emptycradle.org
*SHARE - Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Inc. They supply information packets, correspondence and support and offer a Bi-monthly newsletter. http://nationalshare.org
*MEND - (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death) Information & Resources - support with a Christian focus. http://www.mend.org